UNCONDITIONAL LOVE

 

 

To better understand what unconditional love is, look at the way your dog loves you, no matter how you treat it. For your dog, you are God and your dog will never question its love for you. For us humans, the closest we come to unconditional love is the love we have for our children, especially when they are still infants. Later we might have expectations from them!

 

Unconditional love is love with no expectations. It is not a “feeling”, it is a state of being, a complete unification of our heart and soul, a state of pure bliss, no matter what the circumstances of our life are. We love God unconditionally. We have to love ourselves unconditionally, because we are ONE with God, only separated from Him/her by our human condition. We have to love nature unconditionally; we have to love our fellow humans unconditionally, no matter how disturbing some of them might seem to us. God loves us all unconditionally.

As we can see, this kind of love is not the norm among us humans. We love with conditions, with expectations, with emotions, both positive and negative. In fact, what we call love is a sentimental vision of life, based on the yearnings of our ego. This kind of love can also be destructive if not fulfilled and easily turn into hatred. This kind of love is jealous, possessive, territorial, selfish and narcissistic. In order to love unconditionally, our ego has to be integrated, and used only when necessary to assert our rights. Detachment is the result of integrating our ego. When we are no longer controlled by our emotions we are ready for unconditional love.

 When it comes to romantic relationships, unconditional love is rare, because when we are in love we have many expectations.  As long as both partners feel loved for who they are, love is bliss. However, if criticism or any other negative behavior appear, it goes down the drain, because this love is ego driven.

How to “integrate” our ego? With deep inner work, daily meditation, listening to our higher self and applying the rules of unconditional love as much as we can.